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Wedding Don’ts


When attending as a guest at a wedding, it is important to keep proper wedding etiquette in mind. Although there are many “dos,” there are also a lot of “don’ts.” We have made a few reminders, or “wedding don’ts,” to think of when preparing to go to a wedding!

Wedding planning by Touch of Whimsy Design and Coordination, a San Antonio Wedding Planning company. Designed for a bride at the Southwest School of Art.
Photo by Erica Sofet Photography.

Don’t wear white!

This seems like common sense, but you would be surprised! No matter what, DO NOT wear white to a wedding. This is the bride’s day, and she should be the star. Let her shine and be the only one wearing white!

Photo by Mitchell Bahr Photography.

Don’t be on your phone/taking photos during ceremony unless told otherwise.

Although there are certain occasions when a couple wishes to have their ceremony photographed by guests, do not use your phone for photos during ceremony unless there is a sign that specifically states it is okay to use phone. Phones can be a distraction to others during this time, and it is such a sacred and special moment, you won’t want to miss it.

Don’t approach the bride and groom too soon during dinner– give them a moment to eat.

Keep this in mind. This is so important! I know it is an exciting time and seems like a good idea to jump the gun and run over to talk to the bride and groom. However, when guests approach the couple immediately after dinner is served, they do not have time to eat. This is because once one guest approaches the couple, the line never stops! Don’t get us wrong, the bride and groom want to see their guests and loved ones, but give them at least ten minutes to eat so they aren’t starving throughout the night.

Photo by Allison Jeffers Photography

Don’t talk during toasts or first dances.

From a planner’s standpoint, one of the most frustrating parts of weddings is when people are talking over toasts or first dances. This is such a special moment during reception, and one that has been planned out for months. As a guest, please be respectful and remain quiet during this time!

Photo by Erica Sofet Photography.

Don’t forget your gift!

Most couples will have a gift registry you can find online, so make sure to check it out! This is a special occasion, and they wanted to include you in their special day, so it is definitely worth treating your friends to a gift. If you’re unable to bring a gift, bring a card because your friends will appreciate knowing you were there celebrating the start of their new life together!

Don’t bring an uninvited guest or plus one.

If your invitation includes a plus one, you’ll know! However, if that is not included in the invitation, don’t assume you automatically get one. Weddings are expensive, and every head is paid for, so don’t be offended if you don’t get to bring a guest! Enjoy yourself regardless.

We hope you found these tips to be helpful! For more educational tips to keep in mind as a wedding guest, read our blog about social media etiquette at weddings!




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